Transition and third culture living – The main thrust of the retreat we hosted for a group of missionary kids last week was how to navigate the many transitions of third culture living. Third culture kids are those whose parents are from one culture yet are living in a second country/culture. They in essence wind up being part of their original culture and their host culture(s) yet are rarely fully integrated into either one, thus the formation of a third culture due to influences from various people and places. The themes presented were Reconciliation (mending relationships), Affirmation (thanking and encouraging those who impact your life), Farewells (healthy goodbyes, good closure), and Thinking Ahead (proper expectations, anticipating realities). Through all of these we were reminded that God’s standard is that of love (1 Cor. 13) and it doesn’t change no matter who we are.
So what is it these kids like about going home on furlough? Root beer, Dr. Pepper, free refills, friends, Wal-mart.
And not so much? Not fitting in, prayer cards from six years ago, and speaking at churches.
They stopped on the church theme for awhile, mainly bringing up the questions and comments: “I changed your diapers when you were little.”
“We have your picture on our fridge.”
“Do you live in a grass hut?”
“Do you ride an elephant to school?”
“Do you have electricity?”
“Poor dears”
and not least “Aren’t you glad to be home?”
That last question once again sparked discussion as for nearly all these kids they are more at home in their host country than they are in North America.
I greatly enjoyed facilitating activities for these young people and I’m sure I learned more from them than they did from me. Not that they don’t face challenges but their global vision gives them great potential to be world changers.